House shopping gets a lot easier (and a lot less emotionally exhausting) when you decide in advance what actually matters most. This quick framework I’ve developed for my clients over the years helps you sort your priorities into Deal Breakers, Needs, and Wants—so you can tour homes confidently and avoid the “almost-right” spiral.

Grab the printable version here for free

Note: This is general, educational guidance for home shopping. Real estate rules, timelines, and property availability can vary.

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Why this worksheet helps

Most buyers do not struggle because they do not know what they want. They struggle because they are trying to decide it in the moment, while also managing the emotions of touring.

This worksheet separates your priorities into three categories:

1. Deal Breakers: hard no items
2. Needs: must-haves for daily life
3. Wants: nice-to-haves that would be a bonus

The goal is not perfection. The goal is clarity.

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1) Deal Breakers (Hard No)

Deal breakers should be a short list, usually two to four items. If a home misses even one deal breaker, it is not the right fit.

What qualifies as a real deal breaker?

A deal breaker is something that:

• you will not compromise on
• cannot realistically be changed
• would bother you long after move-in

Common examples (only use these if they are truly inflexible)

• a commute that is longer than you are willing to do
• a location you are not willing to budge on
• a minimum bedroom count that you truly need
• an HOA rule that conflicts with how you plan to use the home
• a property type you are set on (for example, detached vs condo)

If your list is getting long, that is a sign you have Needs and Wants mixed in. We can tighten it together.

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2) Needs (Non-negotiables for daily life)

Needs are the requirements that support your everyday routine. These are the things that make a home functional for your household.

Examples:

• minimum beds and baths
• location and proximity to work, family, or daily routines
• layout requirements (main-level bedroom, office space, etc.)
• parking requirements
• accessibility considerations
• outdoor space, even if it is small

A good test: if the house does not have it, would your day-to-day feel difficult or impractical? If yes, it is probably a Need.

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3) Wants (Nice-to-haves)

Wants are what make a house feel like your house. These matter, and they should be part of the conversation, but they should not outrank your Deal Breakers and Needs.

Examples:

• updated kitchen finishes
• walkability to coffee or restaurants
• fenced yard
• bonus room
• specific architecture or style
• bigger lot
• great natural light

Most buyers will not hit every want. A realistic goal is:

• all deal breakers
• most needs
• a handful of wants, especially the ones you care about most

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How to use this on showings

Here is the flow I recommend:

Step 1: Deal breaker check

If it misses a deal breaker, we do not force it. We admire the house online and move on; these are not worth a showing.

Step 2: Needs check

As we walk through, we ask: can you live your real life here without making it harder than it needs to be? For the most part, this can be answered before a showing as well.

Step 3: Wants score

Some of these can be answered before a showing, but many will need to be checked off in person. If a house checks all of your deal breaker and need boxes, it’s probably worth a showing.

For each want, use a simple score:

• 0 = not present
• 1 = somewhat
• 2 = yes

Step 4: Quick recap before we leave

Right after the showing:

• top 3 pros
• top 3 cons
• anything we need to confirm

This keeps your feedback consistent, especially when you are touring multiple homes in a short window.

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Printable Worksheet

Download the free printable worksheet here

If you want, send me your completed worksheet before we start touring. It helps me tailor the search and keep us focused on the right homes.

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